Chasing Our Tails

This week has been incredibly trying, starting with a project that I’ve easily invested 20 hours of work into not wanting to cooperate. Last night by the time I got up from my computer, I just wanted to bang my head on my desk and cry. I’d spent four hours downloading and uploading and trying to learn script just to make this thing work, with nothing to show for it.

Now, as I sit here, I think I may have solved my problem, and I’m praying to all the book-gods to make this solution stick. I also happen to look over at my cat, Toby, and catch him doing this:

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And it occurs to me that this is what I’ve felt like I’ve been doing ALL WEEK with this project. And sometimes I feel like I do this with my writing.

Sometimes, particularly when I’m stuck on a plot point, I find myself writing in circles. I want so badly to make this one thing fit. But we can’t do that to ourselves as writers. We need to be more creative than that. Sometimes those things don’t work out because there’s a better, more eloquent solution to what we’re doing.

I’ve often found that once I realize what I’m doing and stop trying to force things, it comes much easier. And, often, the idea is pretty kick-a$$! So don’t paint yourself into a corner with your work. Let it flow like it’s meant to, and don’t stress if you hit a bump. You’ll find a solution to it. We always do 🙂


What are some of your “tail-chasing” moments and how did you overcome them?


Happy Meowlloween!

So let’s talk about two of my favorite things today: Magic and Cats!

As most of you guys know, today is Halloween, or Meowlloween as some would say!img_1874

But Toby wants to raise awareness today about his friends, black cats.

Statistically speaking, most of the cats in shelters are black cats. This means that, while a high volume of them are adopted, a lot of them are euthanized. But why? Why so many black cats in the shelter to begin with?

Well, some of that may have to do with the simple fact that some people can’t have/don’t want their cat anymore. But on the flip-side there’s a strong possibility that superstition still persists. I mean, isn’t a black cat on Halloween terrifying??

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But did you know that in some Asian countries black cats are considered lucky? It’s even considered lucky to dream about a black cat. And in Scottish lore a strange black cat on your porch signals prosperity.

So why the association with witchcraft?

It’s largely believed that cats became associated with evil in the Middle Ages. Probably because they do, you know, cat things, like run around the house at full speed at 3 in the morning. I can see where this would be worrisome for Middle-Age-people. I would think my cat was possessed too.

This idea soon shifted to believing that cats are witches’ familiars and even that cats are witches themselves. Now, let’s be honest. Wouldn’t turning into a cat be kinda cool? Like you could jump on really high stuff and walk on tight ropes and junk. Well, I would do that. If I was a cat.

Anyway, the people back then didn’t like that though. (Guess they shared similar beliefs about cats like my friend Mark B. He really hates cats. So I make it a point to annoy him with them as often as I can.) They thought that it was horrifying that a person could wield magic and they were often afraid (see Salem witch trials and all that). This often led to the witches and any cats perceived as familiars to be rounded up and killed.

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That’s one thing Hillary and I can agree about!!

So let’s give black cats, indeed all cats, a break this Halloween. They only want to partake in the festivities as much as we do!

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Now get out there, put your best non-clown costume on, and get some candy!!


PS-Stay tuned for announcements about my new book Return to Royalty, coming soon!

Meet the Bubby!

So, I know I was supposed to write about The Gift of Fear this week, but it’s a short week due to the holiday and my hubs was sick, so that limited the amount of work I was able to do. So as a substitute, I’m going to tell you about how I got my Bubby!

I call him Bubby, but his name is actually Cayde, like the Hunter Vanguard from Destiny. You know, the one voiced by Nathan Fillian. Anyway, we got the Bubby when he was a little bitty guy, as you can see in the picture. My wonderful and soft-hearted husband found him, thinking he was dead. Hubs was going to pick him up and bury him so I wouldn’t find a dead baby kitty, but it turned out he was alive! So hubs put him in the back of his truck and brought him home.

We weren’t supposed to keep him, but one costly trip to the emergency vet later, I knew this baby was mine. He spent two weeks in quarantine because he was sick and because we had two adult cats who didn’t know him yet. He was only three weeks old when we found him, and he’s always been a little guy.

Here he is when he was feeling better:

IsN’tHeSoCuTe!!! *cue cuteness aggression* 🙂

So eventually, after he got over his illness, we were able to introduce him to his new brothers. He took to Dustin immediately:

And it took some time, but Toby eventually came around (like 4 months later):

And that’s the story of how we found the Bubby! Toby and Dustin both have interesting stories too, but I’ll save those for another day.

Here’s some cuddle time:

Here’s a pic of Toby with his tie on because why not!

Happy 4th of July weekend everyone! Stay safe out there.

Read, write and go outside! The weather is great! 🙂